11.24.2013

Gratitude Day 21 - Mrs. Roth and Young Adult Literature

Thursday night I went to the Hunger Games/Catching Fire double feature.  I walked out thinking that the gratitude for the day would be Katniss Everdeen because, come on.  What an amazing character, and what an amazing portrayal by Jennifer Lawrence.  Also, that dress.

However, I got behind on my blogging and as I sit down to reflect on what I was most grateful for at the end of last week, I keep going back to all the books I read in fifth grade.  Obviously, you can't be grateful for The True Confessions of Charlotte Doyle if you're not grateful for Sharon Roth.

Coming out of fourth grade, life was rough for me.  The previous two years of schooling had been an awkard mix of nerdy excitement, adoration from teachers, and bullying from students.  I ended the year in a ball of anxiety and wanted to disappear from the classroom forever.  When I was placed in Mrs. Roth's class over the summer, my amazing mother sat down with my new teacher and told her simply to ignore me.  She explained to Mrs. Roth that the previous two years had been rough for me and that all I wanted was to be a normal kid.

Fifth grade was the best year of my childhood thanks to Mrs. Roth's expert teaching.  She built a classroom culture of acceptance and peace, and she encouraged all of us to love reading and writing not because we needed to get good at it, but because it was beautiful.

Every day in Mrs. Roth's class, she would read to us aloud.  After second grade, most teachers stop doing story time, and at first we thought this was strange. During reading time, we were allowed to relax, sit comfortably, and even doodle if that made us happy.  It was maybe 30 minutes of peaceful enjoyment, the pure purpose of which was to teach us that books are AMAZING.

I remember the heartbreak I felt for Georgie in The Lottery Rose, as he tried so hard to make sense of the horrible abuse he had suffered.  I began a life-long love affair with post-apocalyptic (?) fiction after hearing Mrs. Roth read about the few survivors of nuclear war in Z for Zachariah.  Though science fiction remains my least favorite genre, I loved Eva, a gripping tale of medical technology and the ethics of animal research.  But nothing, nothing, could compare to Charlotte Doyle.

From the first pages, our class became fully immersed in the high sea adventures of this teenage girl.  She was strong, independent, and morally sound.  The story included murder, sexism, racism, and cruelty.  But (spolier alert), Charlotte triumphed over all these things and held steadfast to her belief that justice should be served, even if it is a young girl who must enforce it.  Our whole class was obsessed with Charlotte Doyle.  We pretended the class was the crew, we made a round robin to overthrow the class (not out of disrespect for Mrs. Roth, but rather for the thrill of bringing fiction to life).  Jeremy and I talked about writing a screen play.

And Mrs. Roth was more than just the inspiration for my love of young adult fiction.  She taught us to pursue our own interests as a way of learning more.  She encouraged our growth into young men and women capable of critical thinking.  Mrs. Roth was there at the most awkward of times, the beginning of puberty, when Liz and I came to her with a new crush every day.  She called my tendency for quickly changing loves "the garcon du jour", and teased us gently, knowing that we were beginning to become our real selves.  She loved us each for what made us special, while at the same time understanding our need to fit in.  Plus she was downright funny.

My year with Mrs. Roth is a big part of why I became a teacher and stayed in education to become a principal.  My unspoken goal is to give as many students as possible the opportunity to interact with a teacher as excellent as Mrs. Roth.  So today, I'm grateful for Mrs. Roth and for the young adult literature she introduced me to.  I love reading and I found my life's meaning because Mrs. Roth showed me the way.

11.20.2013

Gratitude Day 20 - Sister Sisters

I am blessed with three sisters.  Wait, what?  Girl please you've only got two sisters.  Ha ha!  That's what you think!  TWIST!!!

First, there's Kelly, pint-sized math teacher, salsa-dancer, and latte drinker extraordinaire.  We used to teach classes next door to each other at Maya Angelou, and I can truly say that every day Kelly made me a better teacher.  Maybe it was our competitive spirit, but we always pushed each other do do more for our kids than we had the day before.  Kelly has been a DC teacher of the year finalist, worked at the highest performing charter school in the country, and works harder for the toughest kids than anyone I know.  Plus, according to our student Rissa, "Your sister, she be tellin' the corniest jokes.  And she be THE ONLY ONE LAUGHING!!!"

Then we have Rebecca, or Rebes.  We used to spell her name Rebs until she learned about vowel-
consonant-e and told us we were spelling it wrong.  Yeah.  That's Rebes.  She struggled greatly in middle and high school, yet somehow grew up to be a brilliant, funny, kind, supportive, hilarious mother and friend.  I can always count on Rebes to keep it real with me, especially grouchy real when I beat her at poker.  And to see her with her son Aiden, well, it's the most beautiful thing.  She loves him so much, and respects him as a person, though he is not yet even two.  She is teaching him to be independent and funny.  Plus he says Nana (his name for our mom) whenever he sees a glass of red wine.  There's a lot of funny in the family.

A few years ago, just when I thought our family couldn't get better, we added Span.  What kind of name is Span, you ask?  A GREAT ONE.  Span, or Andrea, is our brother Thomas' person.  And she is one of my top 10 favorite people in the world.  She is hilarious, humble and crafty, and brings out the best in my brother.  In fact, she brings out the best in all of us.  I admire Span so much for the way she has faced challenge and tragedies in her life, and she makes me want to be a stronger person.  Plus, she made me the best bitstrip character possible.
So tonight, after a day full of g-chatting and text messaging, I'm so thankful for all of my sister sister sisters.  

Gratitude Day 19 - My Bed

When I was in college, I slept through pretty much every 8:30am class I had.  Thank God for Brooke Gintert's work ethic and note taking skills.  And Dr. North, well, that B- couldn't have been wrapped in a nicer bow when you gifted it to me.  I just loved sleeping.  Every year I would get a new blanket for my XL twin dorm room bed.  And selecting pillows was an art form.

I don't know when it happened, but I discovered at some point that there are different kinds of sheets.  I don't know if my mom was keeping this a secret from me or just didn't know about it, but the higher the thread count, the colder that feeling on the cold side of the pillow.  I don't understand how, but it's true.

Couple excellent sheets with a heavy down comforter and a decent mattress, and it's a wonder I ever get out of bed at all.  Today I'm thankful for groupon sheet deals, my 10-year-old holding pillow, and the best bed I've ever had.

11.18.2013

Gratitude Day 18 - Self Dates

I must have been about 10 years old when I was sitting with my mom at a restaurant and saw someone having lunch or dinner alone.  I was even more sensitive then than I am now, and I was overcome with sadness for this person.  I said to mom, "I think whenever I see someone eating alone I should go over and sit with them."  She gently recommended against ever doing that and I couldn't understand why.  It was the most depressing thing I had ever seen.

And then I turned 28.  And oh my God, Self Dates are the best invention ever. Of course, you'd rather the girl that you're crushing on come with you.  Yeah, yeah, if you don't have anyone to go with, you might as well just eat cottage cheese and an apple standing at your kitchen counter.  Wouldn't it be better just to eat the rotisserie chicken right off the chicken while watching reruns of 30 Rock than to have people think you're pathetic and alone?  Maybe.

But what about this:

This guy.  Feet up.  No shoes.  Winner.
Go to your favorite restaurant, a block from your house, where the waitresses know you by name and have the correct beer on your table when they see you coming in.  Sit back in your booth, watch the football game, and have someone cook for you.  Don't talk to anyone, because you don't have to.  No small talk.  No awkward pauses.  No self-conscious ordering.  Maybe bring a book, or catch up on BuzzFeed and facebook while you wait for your food to come.  Eat as fast or as slow as you want.  Leave a nice tip.  Head home. DO NO DISHES.

There's a time and a place for everything.  And tonight, it was time for a Self Date.  And for that, I'm so thankful.

11.17.2013

Gratitude Day 17 - Brandi and Melissa

Back when regular people could get up close.
So this is maybe more obvious than the fact that I love Amanda Hollander.  Y'all.  I love Brandi Carlile and Melissa Ferrick.  But that wasn't always the case...

I was never really into music when I was younger.  I got my first two CDs for my 10th birthday in 5th grade.  Jeremy Hobson bought me Kenny G's Forever in Love and Liz Chubbuck bought me the soundtrack to The Bodyguard.  I thought I was so modern and sophisticated because Jeremy and I finally stopped having sleepovers and listening to Oldies 92 all night long.  Musically, I had arrived.

Then middle school happened, and all the kids started listening to cool music.  They were the original hipsters!  Liz would go to shows up near Chicago and come back with concert t-shirts.  She just kept getting cooler and cooler!  Meanwhile, I wasn't even close to knowing about random bands.  I didn't even get what was so great about Nirvana.  And Smashing Pumpkins?  What were they so upset about?

The only hipster I ever loved.
I kind of coasted through the first few years of high school, nodding ambiguously when people were talking about bands.  Katy Love kept writing "Kurt Lives!" on everything, and I couldn't figure out why she was talking about our classmate Kurt.

But I went to summer camp before junior year and finally understood why people liked music so much!  It was as though I had finally glimpsed a sight of the magic that drove my friends' epic CD collections.  And the magic was The Indigo Girls.

Thus began my love affair with female singer-songwriters. Meeting Amanda helped broaden my musical taste to such disparate artists as Ani DiFranco, Dar Williams, and Patty Griffin.  I mean, talk about RANGE!   Gradually I stopped pretending like I had a varied musical taste, and just listened.

It's cool.  I know I'm a groupie.
Then one day I was visiting Amanda in Maine, and she put on some Brandi Carlile.  My life was changed forever that day.  That voice!  Sometimes she sounds like a cello, sometimes her country roots come out, and the result is always incredible.

A few months later I caught the gay, and went to a Melissa Ferrick concert at Pride.  Mind.  Blown.  Her stage presence and sheer level of inappropriateness and hilarity made me a believer in lesbian folk singers once and for all.

Besties.  Obvi.
I have been to 15 Brandi or Melissa shows since I learned about them both in 2008.  Each one is a gift, unlike the one before.  The only thing better would be seeing them together.  But I think there's an awkward "You stole my drummer" thing that they still need to work out.

No matter my mood, turning on Give up the Ghost or Goodbye Youth adjusts my emotional thermostat to a pleasant 72 degrees.  And if they heard me harmonizing in the living room, I'm pretty sure they would fight over who got to add me to their band.

So tonight I am thankful for Brandi Carlile and Melissa Ferrick.  The beauty of their music, the courage of their out-ness, and their sheer hotness make me happy to be alive.

Gratitude Day 16 - The Lesbifriends


I moved to Denver with a partner.  When that ended, I was left without a support system except for my not-cousin Jenny.  It's scary being in a new place and only knowing people from work, especially when those people routinely work 18-hour days and read education blogs on their downtime.

So when Heather, a friend of Jenny's invited me to a pumpkin carving party last October, I was hopeful that this would be the beginning of a great friendship with a wonderful person.  I got SO much more than I bargained for.

At the party I was greeted by a table full of pumpkin desserts, and as I made my way through the kitchen and into the back yard, I couldn't believe my eyes.  Lesbians!  Everywhere!  There were faux-hawk lesbians, and olympic soccer lesbians, and country-western lesbians.

About an hour in, this text message conversation ensued:

Kate: Pumpkin carving party full of lesbians.
Rebecca: Picture or it didn't happen.
Kate: *sends picture*
Rebecca:  Jesus.  Even that DOG looks like a lesbian.

(It was a picture of these three people, with a dog in one of their laps.  Sadly, the picture will never be seen again because I had to reset my phone.  But you get the idea.)

The end of the pumpkin party featured a marriage proposal carved into pumpkins.  I started the day knowing no one but Heather, and ended the evening being trusted to do the lettering and carving of said proposal.

And that was the beginning of a wonderful winter of friendship with 10-or-so of the best ladies I know.  We had family dinners, endless nights of dancing at Charlie's, white dolphin Christmas exchange, and like 3 non-stop days of eating Thanksgiving food.

Last night was Heather's birthday party.  Last year, all the lesbifriends took a limo to dinner and to the party.  This year, most of us arrived separately, with our own dates.  Last year, we spent every Friday and Saturday night together.  This year we see each other more often at major events.  And this doesn't make me sad.

What I learned last night is that even though friendships change and relationships grow and develop, we need to be forever grateful for those moments of genuine joy and friendship we feel.  So today I'm grateful for the original Lesbifriends, and all those who have been added to the mix.  I am truly blessed to know each of you.

Gratitude Day 15 - Friday at 5:30

Detention feels like it will never end.  And I'm the principal.  I couldn't take it any more, so I let them go at 5:25.  It was like the best celebration ever.  For all of us.  Friday nights have pretty much stopped being exciting for me because I usually want to come home and sleep.  So tonight I'm thankful for Friday at 5:30, my couch, and a nap.